Our oldest son, my stepson, has at twenty, decided to move to another state to be near his natural mother.  This is a big step for him, it meant transferring his full time job, most likely not returning to college this spring, and changing his environment completely. A hundred dreams shattered in one move yet many dreams begun again in the moving….

   There is a time when each of my two stepchildren entered their adulthood and needed to leave our area to mend their heart and their relationship with their natural mom.  I know it is not a move out of anger, or upset, but it is hard to see them go. I am thrilled for their restoration of stronger and closer bonds with their natural mom, but its a change never the less.

   This year has brought so many changes for our family. The blended family has to sway and bend with each nuance having divorced and remarried parents brings. I am thankful that in our family the adults have decided to be proactive to find peace among us….at times there are frustrations but all in all we try very hard to keep home a joyful place for all….and room for all of us in our children’s lives….albeit shared between households.

   The holidays are a time of trying very hard to allow everyone to have time with the children…..it is the one time that I do not feel particularly “need to have them home” for I know that I am privileged to have the children most every day of the year except for summer visitations and school holidays and their dad and stepmom love them too!

Sweetie